Your mentee needs to know that she can count on you.
As a mentor, you have the opportunity to show your mentee how to be reliable and committed. Model the behavior you’d like to see in your mentee. For example:
- Set expectations you can meet. Be honest about what you can and cannot do. Be clear about boundaries with your mentee, and talk about things that each of you can do to make the relationship work.
- Be consistent. Follow through on what you tell your mentee you are going to do. Live up to your commitments—even if your mentee wavers in his.
- Be persistent. Be proactive; don’t wait for your mentee to reach out to you. As the adult, it’s your responsibility—not the mentee’s—to get the relationship off the ground and to maintain regular contact.
As a mentor, you can help to change the path of an at-risk youth.
Youth who have experienced trauma or abuse have little reason to form trusting relationships with adults. By providing consistent, caring support and modeling critical life skills, a mentor can help a young person to learn to trust others and to steer his life in a positive direction.